Self worth quotes, and the questions under them

Self worth quotes

You call it patience. It has been three years.

Patience and self-erasure look identical from the inside. The only difference is whether anything is actually changing.

1. What are you waiting for, exactly?
2. What did you decide it would mean about you if you stopped waiting?
3. Who taught you that waiting was the polite option?

Self worth quotes for relationships

You apologised for asking. Again.

If sorry arrives before an ordinary request, it is not politeness. It is a toll you have agreed to pay.

1. What do you expect to happen if you ask plainly?
2. Who first made asking expensive?
3. What have you stopped asking for entirely?

Self worth quotes, short and inconvenient

You would never let a friend accept this.

The fastest test of self worth is the gap between what you accept and what you would let someone you love accept.

1. What is the last thing you accepted without saying anything?
2. What would you have said if a friend told you the same story?
3. What makes your standards apply to everyone except you?

Self worth quotes for people who over-adapt

Being easy to love was never the assignment.

Adapting is a skill, and like most skills it becomes invisible once it is automatic.

1. What do you change about yourself without noticing?
2. Who are you when nobody needs anything?
3. What would be at risk if you were harder to please?

Self worth quotes, and where they came from

You are not too much. You were told that by someone it inconvenienced.

Too much, too sensitive, too intense: rarely neutral observations, usually feedback from someone who would have preferred you smaller.

1. Who said it first?
2. What were they managing when they said it?
3. What have you not done since, because you believed them?

Nine questions for the evenings it drops

Affirmations tend to bounce off at exactly these moments. Questions are specific enough to interrupt the spiral.

1. What exactly happened, in one sentence, with no interpretation?
2. What did you conclude about yourself from it?
3. Would you apply that conclusion to anyone else?
4. What were you actually needing right then?
5. What would you have wanted someone to say to you?
6. Which part of this is yours, and which part belongs to someone else?
7. What is one piece of evidence against the conclusion?
8. What would you do next if the conclusion were simply untrue?
9. What is the smallest kind thing you can do before tomorrow?